Friday, February 14, 2014

Reminders of What Marriages Should Look Like

So Valentine's Day.  As I've gotten older, I've thought about this holiday more and how it really should be no different than any other day.  Shouldn't everyday be a day to remind your spouse of how loved they are.  Now, I don't pretend to know much about marriage.  I'm nearly 30 and still single.  On top of that, I have parents who divorced when I was younger. But, I think my parents divorce did what nothing else probably could have.  It instilled within me a desire to never settle.  To wait for God's perfect timing for that life partner.  I may not know or have all the right answers or even the formula for dating and marriage, but I do know that in the process of waiting, I want to learn as much as I possibly can.  I want to listen to married couples and seek out their wisdom.  I want to read books on how to become a life giver to someone.  But I also know that these things will not translate into a beautiful marriage alone.  I now that it's going to require action.  I'm excited for the time when I will get to venture with some on this journey called life and help propel my life partner into all that God has called him to be.  I look forward to that oneness the bible talks about and how two people come together to serve each other and the world around them.  Listening to talk with Dr. James tonight reminded me of the beauty that marriage holds.  It reminds me that waiting is all part of the process.  It's not easy, but it is the most important decision (after accepting Christ) in one's life.  I'm not going to get this one wrong.  I trust Christ knows what's better for me than I do.  His time is perfect, his plan is perfect....my job is to prepare myself.  To make my character and thoughts more like Christ so that when the time comes and Mr. Wonderful comes my way, I can offer the best of me because I've been sculpted, molded, and formed into Christ's likeness.

This video and article remind me so dearly what marriage should be and what I will someday strive towards!

Marriage Advice by Dr. James

What Promise You Can't Keep in Marriage